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If you’re reading this, chances are you’re a college student. And according to research from Stanford University, 72 percent of you will have casual sex sometime during your time as a student.
There is nothing wrong with a hookup now and then, but there are wrong ways to go about it. Here is a quick guide to ethical sex in college.
Consent
This might seem obvious, but considering that one in four college-aged women are raped, it turns out it still needs to be said. We often hear that “no means no,” but there is far more to it than that. If a person is drunk or drugged they can’t, by definition, give proper consent. So, stay away from anyone who has had too much to drink. Real consent is a resounding and enthusiastic “yes” and if you get anything other than a yes — like an “I don’t know” or “maybe” or “I guess” — then you should double check. Watch body language — if your partner seems stiff or reticent to continue with whatever it is you are doing, stop and ask. A lack of a spoken “no” does not mean “yes.”
Protection
Carry a condom with you … both men and women. Always use protection, no matter what kind of sex you are having. Free condoms are available at the Student Health Center and the Women’s Center. Always make sure a condom or other barrier method is used (such as a dental dam for oral sex). A night of fun is never worth a sexually transmitted infection.
Health
Keep up to date on your sexual health. One in four college students have an STI, according to the the Center for Disease Control, so in addition to consistently using protection, also get tested for STIs on a regular basis. STI screening is available through Student Health Services so there isn’t any excuse not to know your sexual health status.
Watch out
Look out for both your friends and strangers who might be entering compromising situations. If you know someone who is either uncomfortable or too inebriated to consent, step in and help. Being proactive can go a long way to preventing situations where someone could be the victim of sexual violence.
Whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or a quick fling, these guidelines can help make your sexual experiences in college both safe and ethical. Use protection, get consent and have the time of your life.
Kaitlin Moroney can be reached at [email protected]