It is almost that time of year again. It is that time when we all finish our finals, pack our bags, move home for the summer (or into your own apartment) and enjoy some free time. It is also time to enjoy the coined phrase of “Summer Lovin’.” Today I feel like offering some advice about various summertime sexual activities.

One of the big things to keep in mind during this time of year is location. While the weather is warm, many people enjoy having sex outside. If you decide to partake in this, you need to take into consideration where you are. What I mean by this is that if you are caught, you can be arrested, and that would be a major mood-killer. Also, keep in mind that weather has a tendency to change very quickly, so the sun may not shine the entire time.

Another thing to think about is being prepared. In this instance I am not talking about condoms (although they are certainly something important to pack along with you). Rather, I am talking about bringing a blanket. If you are going to be in the forest, you are going to want something to put on the ground. I say this because if one of you is going to be on your back, you are not going to be happy to find it all scratched up due to the forest debris.

Be a good camper. What I am referencing here is the “rule” of packing out what you pack in. Do not leave condoms after you are done (or any component of them — packaging, for example). One reason is that it is litter. Another reason is that it is not only gross but also rude to other people walking through the forest.

There are other locations besides the wilderness. You may want to enjoy a location in or near water. Selecting these locations is a personal choice — however, if you do choose to have sex in water, be considerate and mindful. Swimming pools are not a great place to have sex because other people use the same pool. Yes, it is true that there is an intense amount of chlorine in a swimming pool, thoroughly disinfecting it. On the other hand, it is mostly disrespectful to others. Put yourself in the position of the other person — would you want to swim in a pool that many people have used for very intimate encounters? If it is your own private pool that is a different story. Just keep in mind that it is still probably a shared pool. If you are determined to do anything intimate in a swimming pool, I suggest making out. That way the only fluids exchanged are mouth-to-mouth and do not get into the swimming water.

Exercise caution if enjoying natural bodies of water. Rivers, lakes and oceans all contain many different pollutants, bugs and other contaminants. Personally, I do not find that to be the ideal situation for intimate moments. Also, there is a certain risk of physical harm when in such situations. Quite often in rivers and lakes, you will find many sharp rocks, easily slipped on and ready to cut you if you are not paying full attention to your placement due to other activities you may be engaged in.

All of these recommendations are if you are going to be near another person during your summer break. There are, of course, many people who will do a long-distance relationship during the next few months. Fret not, I will give you some advice as well.
First of all, the notion that long-distance relationships never work and will only end in breaking up is a myth. Yes, it is true that many of them do dissolve, but there are a lot that remain together. If you and your other half are going to be apart for the next few months, feel confident that it is only for a few months and not for the rest of your collegiate careers.

As far as what to do in such a situation, there are multiple options. You may need to be a bit adventurous with these options. They are not for everyone.
One is to utilize the concept of phone sex. Keep in mind that I am not necessarily promoting 1-900 phone numbers, rather I am suggesting you engage in this activity with your partner. Phone sex is not a dirty or scandalous activity. It is a healthy, alternative way of obtaining a different kind of intimacy. You are sharing something with your partner based solely on words and the sound of each other’s voices. Also, phone sex is a very safe form of sexual activity because no bodily fluids are shared.

Here is some advice when it comes to this activity. First, you do not have to do anything over the phone that you would not do in real life. In fact, when doing this with your partner, you are creating a mental image of what it would actually be like. Another thing is to make sure it will not affect the following day. I cannot think of anyone who would have sympathy for you the next day if you were exhausted because you stayed up the entire night engaging in this. A final piece of advice is to avoid doing this if you have thin walls. You are engaging in this activity, and I am pretty sure that the other people in your house do not want to be involved, and you may not want them involved, either.

Another option involves the computer and an instant messenger program and occasionally a webcam. Enjoying this is entirely a preference. My only advice is that if you are going to your parents’, do not use a computer that everyone else has access to, and do not save the conversations. I am sure that neither you nor your parents want to participate in the conversation when your messages are discovered.
Speaking of computers, there are also specific adult toys that can be used with the computer. The one I am talking about in this instance is called the “Sinulator.”

You plug it into the USB drive of your computer, download the software, and the rest of the toy can be controlled by another computer anywhere in the world (as long as both computers have Internet access). This is a neat way to involve both individuals and is also a different twist to the idea of cyber sex.
Of course, the other option as to what to do during a long-distance relationship is to refrain from any form of sexual activity. For some people the phrase “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” holds true, and refraining from sex for the next few months will rekindle your sex life when you both come back to school. For other people that expression does not hold true at all. In either instance the resolution is to find what works for you and make it happen.

Whatever you do over the summer, take the necessary precautions and enjoy yourself.
Have fun, be safe, and happy summer.

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