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| Written by Chris Bidiman - Argonaut | ||||||
| Thursday, 20 March 2008 | ||||||
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Sometimes sex lives need a little spicing up. That is stating a common fact more than new information. I have given suggestions in the past for different ways to add this spice. I am now going to add another series of ideas to that list of suggestions. These ideas are very basic but very sensual and intimate all at the same time. Many of us played dress up as young children, but mixing that sense of childhood game with a sense of adulthood can add a new level of intimacy to your relationship. After all, playing dress up is quite fun … especially when it involves lingerie and your partner. If you are dressing up for your partner, I suggest subtly getting some ideas of what would be liked. If your partner has an attraction to thigh high stockings, then by all means go out and buy a pair. If, on the other hand, thigh highs do not even register on the attraction radar, do not go that route. You do not have to be very blunt in this information gathering endeavor. You do not have to say, “Do you like thigh high stockings?” but it can be part of a standard conversation. “I like her stockings. What do you think?” could be uttered while out on the town or at a party. It is a good idea to always have some of the basics, even if they are more for you than another person. You should always own a garter belt. For those who are not entirely sure what a garter belt is, it is an undergarment designed to help keep thigh highs from constantly falling down to your ankles. It goes around the hips/waist area and has four straps that hook into the thigh high. You should also always own thigh high stockings, especially in fishnet. Fishnet is a standard, classic look that is almost always found attractive. Let’s move away from the basics and go for some of the more fun lingerie pieces. A bustier is a good choice. They are designed with some boning to help give a bit of shape to the body while you are wearing it. They also have cups to hold your breasts in place. The combination of the cups and the boning are the big clues that you are looking at a bustier. One of the other aspects is that they are often closed with hook and eye closures, much like a bra, and having your partner unhook these closures can be, and should be half the fun. Corsets are very similar but not quite the same. They usually do not have the cups in them, but rather are flat. Along with the hook and eye closures, which are usually found in the front of the corset, there is also back lacking. Opening such a garment can be made into any type of game you want (you can put it under something for going out to dinner and then reveal it for dessert). The other exciting thing about a corset is the “shaping” it produces. When it is properly fitted a corset will produce an hourglass silhouette by bringing in the waist. It also gives more cleavage than even your best push-up bra and can be worn by any bust size (yes, it will give cleavage to a 32 inch bust). There are also pieces such as teddies and negligees. These are lovely classics and fantastic options. These are personal preferences. When it comes to choosing some of these lingerie pieces, it is about what looks good on your body and what you like. Do not overlook bra and panty sets either. All of these pieces are very simple but very attractive. Don’t forget the entire package. If you are going to get dressed up, whether for another person or for yourself — yes, you can get dressed up for yourself, there is no reason not to — keep in mind that not only does that involve sexy lingerie, but also an excuse to do your hair and makeup more elaborate than you normally would. It is also a chance to break out those heels that have been hiding in the back of your closet for a while. The biggest thing to keep in mind during all of this is to make sure it fits. Ask the salesclerk if you can try it on and ask for help. Chances are they are skilled and knowledgeable in the product and can help you get the right fit to make the lingerie work for you. My advice to men: if a lot of effort has been made to provide you with an enjoyable, attractive visual stimulus, you need to return the favor. Do what you can to provide the same kind of enjoyment to your partner as you receive. Have fun, be safe, and happy dressing! Have a sex question for Chris? Send it to This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it  Add as favorites (62) | Views: 717
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